You can’t get along with everyone.
I’m sure we’ve all heard that before… But it’s true.
Sometimes incompatible personalities clash – and no two personality types are more incompatible than ESFPs and INTPs.
[ESFP] stands for Extraverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving. ESFP indicates a person who is energized by time spent with others (Extraverted), who focuses on facts and details rather than ideas and concepts (Sensing), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be spontaneous and flexible rather than planned and organized (Perceiving).
ESFPs are sometimes referred to as Performer personalities because of their playful, energetic nature.
The ESFP personality type is the 3rd most common in the world and can be found in 9% of the general population (10% of women and 7% of men).
Famous ESFP faces include Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Judy Garland, Elvis Presley, Ronald Reagan, and Paul McCartney.
What is the INTP Personality Type?
[INTP] stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving. INTP indicates a person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on logic and reason (Thinking) and who prefers to be spontaneous and flexible rather than planned and organized (Perceiving).
INTPs are sometimes referred to as Architect personalities because of their intuitive understanding of complex systems.
The INTP personality type is one of the rarest in the world and makes up 3% of the general population (2% of women and 5% of men).
Famous INTP faces include Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Marie Curie, Abraham Lincoln, and Socrates.
15 Ways ESFPs and INTPs Clash.
1. Extrovert Vs Introvert
The most obvious dissimilarity between these contrasting personality types is extroversion (as exhibited by the ESFP personality type) and introversion (much like the INTP personality type).
So how does this cause conflict?
Obviously, an extrovert and an introvert can clash in many ways…
An extrovert thrives when socialising with others and appreciates outside attention. An introvert, by contrast, prefers isolation and does not seek attention.
As the acronyms suggest, ESFPs are Sensing (S), which means they focus on facts and details rather than ideas and concepts, whereas INTPs are iNtuitive (N), which means they focus on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details.
This polar opposite way of thinking can cause conflict in an ESFP / INTP relationship and can lead to difficult and unresolved arguments.
3. Taking Risks
ESFPs jump into situations with ease – living by the mantra leap before you look.
Alternatively, INTPs are very cautious people and tend to foresee every possible outcome before committing to a decision.
This clash in personalities could cause many problems in an ESFP / INTP relationship – for example, committing to a significant other (ESFPs are more likely to commit whereas INTPs will be more hesitant).
ESFPs like to keep conversations light – favouring banter and goofiness over-serious, heavy, or negative conversation topics.
INTPs could not be more different…
INTPs are philosophical innovators, fascinated by logical analysis, systems, and design. They are preoccupied with theory and search for the universal law behind everything they see.
They want to understand the unifying themes of life, in all their complexity.
This difference in conversation styles may lead to forced and uncomfortable discussions in an effort to find common ground.
[ESFPs] like to be in the middle of the action and the center of attention.
Common hobbies sited by ESFPs include socialising, dancing, and team sports.
Alternatively, INTPs prefer individual activities like reading, writing, art, and computer studies.
This leads us perfectly to our next point…
ESFPs are the physical, outdoorsman types – enjoying activities like hiking and sports.
On the other hand, INTPs are the exact opposite – most of their interests are home-based activities.
This clash is physicality may lead to disagreements between ESFPs and INTPs (for example when attempting to pick an activity for the evening).
The ESFP is likely to be traditionalist.
Comforted by the way things are traditionally done, the ESFP is unlikely to stray too far from social norms.
The INTP, on the other hand, analyses and questions social traditions and values change.
8. Decision Making
As established above, ESFPs are Feelers (F), whereas INTPs are Thinkers (T).
This means that ESFPs base their decisions on their emotional response to the situation, whereas INTPs base their decisions on logic and reason.
When making decisions, it is unlikely either personality type will understand the others’ thought processes, leading to potential conflict.
In general, ESFPs are extremely happy, open with their emotions, and are incredibly affectionate.
In contrast, INTPs are far more emotionally closed off and unaffectionate.
This difference in handling and displaying emotions may lead to disagreements and conflict between an ESFP and an INTP, especially if they are involved in a romantic partnership.
Imagine there’s a party going on…
In this scenario, an ESFP would thrive – they can make friends with anyone, even a stranger.
An INTP, on the other hand, would struggle – they have difficulty socialising with those they are unfamiliar with.
Both ESFPs and INTPs are spontaneous by nature. For proof of this, just look at the Perceiving (P) trait being present in both acronyms (Perceiving meaning the individual prefers to be spontaneous/flexible rather than planned/organized).
However, their spontaneous tendencies do differ quite drastically…
ESFPs are spontaneous to a fault and often do not consider the long-term consequences of their actions.
Alternatively, INTPs are spontaneous (as in flexible) and always act with long term effects in mind.
ESFPs tend to be high energy, highly motivated individuals. For example, when at a party, the ESFP will spend hours dancing and being active.
The INTP is the exact opposite – possessing low energy levels and is often unmotivated. When at a party, the INTP will spend little to no time dancing and will likely leave the festivities early.
This clash in energy levels could easily put a strain on an ESFP / INTP relationship.
13. How They Perceive Each Other
How individuals perceive one another is often a major point of contention.
ESFPs often view INTPs as quiet, boring, and occasionally disinterested.
On the other hand, INTPs can view ESFPs as loud, abrasive, and neglectful in the listening department (whilst excelling in the talking department).
As previously discussed, ESFPs are Feelers (F) whereas INTPs are Thinkers (T).
The Thinker is far blunter and more straightforward with their thoughts, feelings, and opinions – which has the potential to hurt the Feeler, who is far more sensitive by nature.
This clash of bluntness and sensitivity has the potential to upset the dynamic of an ESFP / INTP relationship.
15. Homebodies & Night Owls
Guess which personality type falls into which category…
ESFPs tend to be night owls and appreciate their freedom – making their ideal location a club or a pub.
This is contrasted by the INTP personality type, who is far more independent and isolated (by choice of course) – making their ideal location their home.
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