Your extrovert kid loves to go to the park and play with his friends, as well as joining his schoolmates’ birthday parties. However, you always feel uneasy at the mere idea of conversating for a few hours as an introvert with the parents of other children.
Swiss psychiatrist Carl G. Jung, believed that extroverts tend to drive their attention to the outer world, whereas introverts are more focused on inner life.
No worries: more likely you are just an introvert parent struggling with an extrovert child!
If that’s the case, you are in the right place: in this article, you can find 15 perfect activities that you can do together.
Extraversion and introversion are often thought of as opposites. Swiss psychiatrist Carl G. Jung, believed that extroverts tend to drive their attention to the outer world, whereas introverts are more focused on inner life.
However, in common language, extroversion and introversion have ended up indicating, respectively, openness towards public relations or coyness and reflexivity.
As a consequence, extrovert kids are considered more talkative and team leaders and we think that they are able to make new friends much more easily than introvert children.
On the other hand, for introvert parents raising extrovert children maybe not so easy, as introverts usually prefer individual activities and need their own time and space to recharge their batteries.
So… No more birthday parties full of noisy children and smiley parents?
In this article, you can find instead a list of 15 activities that conjugate the different needs of both of you.
Are you ready? Let’s start!
1. Walking the Dog
If you have a dog, taking it out for a walk together with your child can be a very good idea: extrovert children like to go out and play with their pets, and you won’t necessarily have to speak with other people…
Also, you can organise a trip to the local zoo!
2. Doing Homework Together
Doing homework can be boring for extrovert children, who sometimes struggle to concentrate on intellectual activities.
Therefore, talking to another person in the meanwhile can be a good way to pass the time! Also, the support of an adult can stimulate the curiosity of the child towards school subjects.
3. Playing Board Games
You can play board games just with your child or with the whole family together, after dinner or on a rainy Sunday afternoon where you don’t have other particular ideas.
Extrovert children like both card games and board games, like Cluedo for example.
4. Riding go-karts or bikes
If your kid is old enough to ride them, making a go-karts race can be a fun experience for you and him!
Extrovert children love competitions, and driving is also an individual activity that can suit introvert people as well.
However, if your child is still too small for go-karts, also going for a bike-ride together can be an interesting way to explore new places!
5. Playing one-to-one sports
Sports don’t always imply joining a group or a team. You can play some non-teamed based sports with your child and they can be equally fun as team-based activities.
For example, kids usually like playing table tennis and table soccer!
6. Watching cartoons
All kids, especially when they are very small, like to watch cartoons with their parents, and – why not?
Singing the theme songs with them (it’s even better when songs are in a foreign language so that the children can learn them more easily).
Children will remember these moments even after a long time!
Whether you are good at cooking, or you simply like doing it, cooking with your kid (and some of his friends) can be another fun activity.
Extrovert kids usually love food, its shapes, colours and tastes, and they take part – sometimes a bit awkwardly and not without making disasters! – in its preparation; but most importantly, they enjoy the final result: eating together!
8. Playing musical instruments
If you can play a musical instrument, like the guitar or the drum for example, you may try and teach it to your child as well.
Music is a very powerful form of communication, which gathers people together and cheers them up without having to… Speak, actually!
Alternatively, you can listen to some good music.
For instance, extrovert people often like listening to rock music, because it stimulates their dynamic character; introvert people like it as well because it helps them loosen up a little bit and get more in touch with the external world!
9. Writing stories
Doing creative writing exercises can boost children’s imagination and doesn’t force introvert parents to communicate verbally.
There are many different books containing creative writing exercises, which can also be done by small children.
Together you can invent short stories and even poems! You can play mixing up plots, characters, symbols and creating amusing rhymes!
10. Travelling together
Also travelling is an experience that can accommodate both the introvert parents and their need for inner retreat and extrovert children interest in getting to know new places and cultures, especially when travelling far from home.
Journeys are always fantastic experiences, that can indelibly mark your child’s growth, making a positive difference!
11. Drawing or painting
Whether or not you are good at drawing or painting, they are two nice activities that extrovert children can do: indeed, they allow him to play with patterns and colours, even when they get dirty with the acrylics – for the joy of their introvert parents!
Moreover, they’re both activities that kids can do together with their friends: for example, sitting at the tables of the local library or art centre.
12. Playing videogames
Kids love playing videogames. There are thousands of them: strategy games, gun shooting games, car games and many many others.
Going to a games room with your child is another perfect activity for introvert parents to get along with extrovert kids and accommodate their need for social contact.
Moreover, the games room is a place where the child can easily find new friends!
13. Decorating the house together
On holiday periods, such as Halloween or Christmas, you can ask your child to help you decorate the house.
Whether you are going to carve pumpkins or to decorate the Christmas tree, an extrovert child will be happy to give his contribution in terms of ideas and practical sense!
14. Going to the cinema
Also going to the cinema and watching a good film together can be a fantastic activity that can put together the introvert parent’s more reflexive and rational mind with the extrovert child’s social attitude.
Don’t forget to bring pop-corns with you!
15. Going bowling
Last but not least, the extrovert child will surely enjoy playing bowling with you, or going on the rides at the local playground!
Rollercoasters, bumper cars, and other games are always exciting activities for extrovert children. Also, they don’t force the introvert parents to socialise with other people.
These are just 15 tips, that can be explored in more detail depending on your interests and your level of experience in the chosen activity.
In any case, just remember: everyone is the way they are. No personality is right or wrong.
Consequently, you don’t need to worry about being a bad parent, just because you are more closed or thoughtful: this doesn’t mean that you cannot build meaningful relationships with children who love social contact, instead of reading books.
Of course, in this last case, your relationship would be easier, because you two are more similar; but in both cases communication is possible!
The only important thing is being aware that you have different personalities – never think that there’s something wrong with you or with the child: just go on sharing common hobbies.